Contemporary Relationships

Some relationships are formed by necessity, some others by chance or choice. Many are breaking up because of their egos, indecisiveness, misunderstandings, miscommunication, insatiable greed or negligence.

In relationships there is no relatedness but only differences, which is responsible for break-ups. Instead of accepting and appreciating the differences, they are opposing and condemning the differences.

 No one is happy with his relationships with the others due to the concealed fact that the man is mostly unhappy with himself. Even Intimate relationships have become fragile and stormy because of their selfish motives. A relationship, these days, is formed purely based on selfish gain rather than bondage. Profit and loss has taken the place of affection and admiration in relationships.

In fact, the god-given relationships (such as father, mother, brother, sister) are taken for granted which eventually leads to miscommunication, misunderstanding and deterioration. These family relationships are ignored, less cared or ill-cared, thinking they are permanent. Therefore, No care is necessary. On the contrary, Importance or care is laid upon temporary relationships which may blossom or not.

Men are aching for relationships with the opposite gender and vice versa. This young age relationships are purely physical or sexual. After their physical needs are satisfied, they tend to feel bored with each other and not able to tolerate each other’s squabbles and differences. Rather than repairing or strengthening their relationships, they prefer to break up.

After the marriage, the husband wants to prove his logic to the wife and the wife, hers to him. Wife should understand the husband and the husband should love the wife but the reverse is happening. Hence, the insurmountable and endless issues between wife and husband emerge in the form of divorce.

All are not the same. Every person is simply and incomparably unique with his thoughts, moods, attitudes, physical appearances etc. a pine tree never wants to be short and it never forces the rose plant to be tall so does the rose plant never forces the pine tree to be short. But in relationships we do, we force other people to be like our opinions or wishes. Failing to do so results in hurts and issues.

Why forcing the other individual to change themselves according to our wishes?

Enjoy the uniqueness and differences of the other individual with deep admiration and respect. Then, one can live in harmony with the other individual.

Caring that uniqueness with love and accepting the other person as he or she is make life wonderful and the relationships meaningful with completeness.